Bringin’ Sexy Back
In an age where body positivity is strengthening every day and we find ourselves supporting friends and family about their own body confidence, why are we still afraid to take a little advice from JT when it comes to ourselves? This is something I think we’ve all struggled with at some point in our lives. Whether you’re like me and you’ve struggled on and off forever or you’re just now finding yourself feeling lackluster during the pandemic, the mirror doesn’t exactly feel like a friend. When you aren’t feeling your best, there is nothing more terrifying than wearing that crop top, those tight jeans, and especially that lingerie. Guys, we haven’t forgotten about you either. This can be a struggle for ALL of us. Self consciousness is not picky, ya’ll. Why are we so mean to ourselves when we can find so much love for those around us?
This is something I’ve been trying to dive deeper into lately and I wanted to share what I’ve found in the hopes that it might help someone else. We’ve all been there. In the fitting room at the store trying on a size that usually fits but it just doesn’t. Getting ready for a date and sitting in front of the mirror with growing hatred after each outfit. Laying in bed next to your significant other and moving their hand away from your belly because when they touch it it’s as if you can feel the extra weight they’d feel. I could sit here all day and do this, but that’s not the point. I want you to reflect on all of the stuff you say to yourself as you pass by a mirror. All the places you pinch, and poke, and pull. Now picture yourself saying and doing those things to your best friend, your parent, your partner, or even your kids. Do you feel like you kind of need to shower? That’s how I felt when I thought about it. That was a turning point for me where I’ve decided to exercise mindful body positivity.
I’ve written down goals I would like to achieve for my mind, body, and life, but I’ve also started to try to love myself through the process and I think some of these things could help you too. Stopping in front of the mirror and forcing yourself to say three nice things each day. Forcing yourself to get dressed and ready even though the farthest you’re going is the couch. Taking the time to get 30 minutes of fresh air whether it be a walk with the kids, a nature hike with a friend, or you just sipping coffee on your stoop. Taking time for yourself is a challenge and being nice to yourself feels impossible sometimes, but it doesn’t have to be. Rewire your brain to love yourself. Be like Lizzo. Shake that booty. Wear those popping jeans. Dance in your undies. Smile for goodness sake, because you’re living and you’re not alone. LOVE YOURSELF. A friend told me a quote I will now forever live by: “The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.” DAMN ain’t that the truth. Trust the process and celebrate your journey along with everyone else’s.
As Valentine’s day is coming up, I’ve had a lot of gals reach out about wanting to do a boudoir shoot for their partner but feeling like they aren’t good enough. That’s part of what prompted this blog. PSA: I’m here to tell you that you ARE good enough and that you can own anything that you choose to do with confidence. It’s also what you make of it and what you’re comfortable with too. If you wanna rock an oversized tee, some shorts, and long socks, you do you baby. If you want to wear a lacy teddy and have a Janice Jackson moment, free that nipple girl. Take the plunge and get out of your comfort zone with whatever makes you feel confident and sexy. No one else. Let this start of the new year be the beginning of our journey to find ourselves and love ourselves again. I hope ya’ll are with me because I’m diving in. Now, I’m off to go shake it to some 2000s Hip Hop and I suggest you do the same.
Happy New Year Everyone! xx
Emily
